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The price I paid for being a ‘good judge’
As a longtime judicial officer, I was excited to be summoned for jury duty in January 2017. When I arrived at the jury assembly room, I wondered why there were so few potential jurors. The jury commissioner explained: There was only one trial set that day, a criminal case.
BLOOM Published in Indonesia
We are happy to announce that BLOOM: 50 Things to Say, Think and Do with Anxious, Angry and Over-the-Top Kids by Unhooked Books authors, Lynne Kenny and Wendy Young has been released in the Bahasa Indonesia language across Indonesia, the 4th most populated country in the world.
3 Ways to Incorporate Music into Your Family Life
When we think of music, often what comes to mind is song. We may think of Broadway musicals, Bach or Justin Timberlake. In our minds, we might imagine orchestras or pianists.
The Healthiest Way to Channel Your Trump Rage (reposted from Tonic Vice)
It's natural to feel monstrously pissed off right now. What you do with that feeling makes all the difference. There's a great line in The Outlaw Josey Wales when Clint Eastwood tells his about-to-be-besieged friends that the only way to save themselves is to get "plumb mad-dog mean."
If Empathy is King, Are Boundaries It’s Queen with HCPs?
In a previous article in which I crowned EMPATHY as king when dealing with high-conflict personalities—those folks who are the most toxic, the most difficult of difficult people—I asked for feedback from readers. You were kind with your comments and thoughtful with your suggestions. The comment that resonated the most was this:
True or False? If You're Not Willing to Adapt Your Strategy with High Conflict People, You Should Get Out Now
High-conflict cases in the courts and high-conflict personalities (HCPs) in the workplace get a lot of play these days and we're seeing more people than ever claiming expertise in dealing with them. But should they? What qualifies anyone as an expert, or even moderately competent, to take on a high-conflict case, workplace or other dispute?
Is the Current Family Law Legal System Facing Extinction?
Inflection points should not be ignored. In mathematics, there is a concept called the inflection point, which describes the point at which a curve on a graph changes directions. Business has adopted this concept, sometimes known as the strategic inflection point, referring to when a change occurs that requires a business to change direction in order to survive.
Crisis and Opportunity 危机与机会并存/机遇与挑战并存
I’m told that one Chinese character communicates both “crisis” and “opportunity.” Its meaning—like so much in this life—is what you make of it, and what you make of it will trickle down to your kids.
Be A Calming Agent, Not A Logician
Do you catch yourself using LOGIC and EXPLANATIONS when interacting with most people? It's natural and routine. We expect people to respond to logic, but it doesn't always work and sometimes it backfires, especially with people who may have a high-conflict personality (HCP).
People are Rational and Generally Make Good Choices: But the Family Law System Can Trick People?
In prior articles, we wrote about the natural desire to prevail against perceived rivals and the potential use of game theory to understand obstacles in the current legal system as it takes families through parental separations and divorce. We next focused on how the legal system begins to trick people into self-defeating patterns of decision making......
Why Tight Business Practices Are Critical to Avoid Lawsuits and Attacks by High-Conflict Personalities
Anyone who has launched a business (or practice) kicks it off with exuberance and dreams of freedom and unlimited potential. It starts with a great idea coupled with boundless enthusiasm about the future. We put in the effort to develop protocols, policies and procedures so we can have an efficiently run business and off we go to fulfill our life's purpose.
Did You Know That Abused Children Smile in Pictures?
As a member of a Foster Care Review Board, I listen as parents whose children have been removed from their homes as a result of abuse or neglect explain how much they love their children and that there was no way they'd ever abused them. They point to smiling pictures of their beautiful children as proof of their stellar parenting.