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Review: 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life by Bill Eddy
No discussion of ADR is complete without reference to the works of Bill Eddy. This is an essential book for divorce professionals, both as interesting and informative reading and as a book to keep on one’s desk “just in case.
Are You the Target of Blame for a Narcissist?
Is someone verbally attacking you at work, at home or in your community? Telling you that you’re a loser, saying "It's all your fault," publicly humiliating you, spreading false rumors about you or claiming credit for your hard work? Such people are often narcissists who are also high-conflict people (HCPs).
4 Ways to Start Protecting Kids from Potential Sex Abusers
We live in a world where an abuser can spot a vulnerable child from a mile away, or from across a crowded room, yet every other adult in the child’s life is likely to miss it.
What is Vicarious Trauma?
“How do you do this all day?” How many times have we as helping professionals been asked this question only to respond with a look on our faces that hardly represents our true feelings?
Why “Stranger Danger” Isn’t Enough
There is a video that went viral on Facebook titled The Dangers Of Social Media (Child Predator Social Experiment). Watching it hits you right in the feels, especially if you’re a parent. The video shows a guy pretending to be a 15-year-old boy on social media who lures three girls from different families to meet with him. It turns out he is not a 15-year-old boy and he gets the surprise of his life to find the parents waiting for him along with their daughters.
Why Dialectical Behavior Therapy for Borderline Personality Disorder?
I love dialectical behavior therapy. As a highly sensitive person who experiences their emotions intensely, learning dialectical behavior therapy (or DBT) has made a profound and lasting difference in my own life. Now that I’m a social worker, I continue to use the skills I learned in DBT every single day but I’m also in the position of sharing my joyful enthusiasm for this compassionate and highly-effective treatment with others.
The price I paid for being a ‘good judge’
As a longtime judicial officer, I was excited to be summoned for jury duty in January 2017. When I arrived at the jury assembly room, I wondered why there were so few potential jurors. The jury commissioner explained: There was only one trial set that day, a criminal case.
BLOOM Published in Indonesia
We are happy to announce that BLOOM: 50 Things to Say, Think and Do with Anxious, Angry and Over-the-Top Kids by Unhooked Books authors, Lynne Kenny and Wendy Young has been released in the Bahasa Indonesia language across Indonesia, the 4th most populated country in the world.
3 Ways to Incorporate Music into Your Family Life
When we think of music, often what comes to mind is song. We may think of Broadway musicals, Bach or Justin Timberlake. In our minds, we might imagine orchestras or pianists.
The Healthiest Way to Channel Your Trump Rage (reposted from Tonic Vice)
It's natural to feel monstrously pissed off right now. What you do with that feeling makes all the difference. There's a great line in The Outlaw Josey Wales when Clint Eastwood tells his about-to-be-besieged friends that the only way to save themselves is to get "plumb mad-dog mean."
If Empathy is King, Are Boundaries It’s Queen with HCPs?
In a previous article in which I crowned EMPATHY as king when dealing with high-conflict personalities—those folks who are the most toxic, the most difficult of difficult people—I asked for feedback from readers. You were kind with your comments and thoughtful with your suggestions. The comment that resonated the most was this:
True or False? If You're Not Willing to Adapt Your Strategy with High Conflict People, You Should Get Out Now
High-conflict cases in the courts and high-conflict personalities (HCPs) in the workplace get a lot of play these days and we're seeing more people than ever claiming expertise in dealing with them. But should they? What qualifies anyone as an expert, or even moderately competent, to take on a high-conflict case, workplace or other dispute?