A Necessary Tool For Divorced Parents
©2020 Annette T. Burns, JD
Dear Reader:
Helping to write BIFF™ for Coparent Communication was an exciting time for me. After about twenty years of reading and often editing coparent emails in my practice, this book was a chance to try and help lots of people improve their coparenting communications on a larger scale. I’ve read the original BIFF book, and use it like a reference manual in my practice, so focusing just on coparent communications was a logical extension.
Communicating is hard.
Communicating with a former partner about the most important thing in your life – your children – is much harder. Communications are fraught with emotions covering years and years of your relationship, and they cover details of your personal life that others couldn’t possibly understand. This is why Biff for CoParent Communication is a necessary tool for all divorced parents.
This book is for you…
This book is for you if you get a sick feeling in your stomach when you open your inbox and see there’s a new email from your coparent. Maybe you know that those emails are always an attack on you, an accusation that you did something wrong (“You didn’t get the homework done!”)?
This book is for you…
This book is for you if there’s an important coparenting matter you need to discuss with the other parent, but you don’t know where to start (and are sure you’ll be attacked when you do send it). Maybe you need to ask to switch a weekend, and you know the answer will be “no” and you’ll be accused of being a horrible parent for even asking.
It’s for you if you’re being attacked in writing on a daily basis and want it to stop, but don’t want people to think that your lack of response means the other person is right about you.
In BIFF for Coparent Communication you will see examples of situations like these that you’ll swear came from your own case, and we show helpful suggestions about how to make these communications better without repeating the same mistakes over and over.
Most importantly, this book is for you if you want your coparent communication to take up less of your time and attention, so you can focus more on the most important thing, your children.
Annette T. Burns, Co Author, Biff for Coparent Communication
Annette T. Burns, JD, is co-author of BIFF for CoParent Communication. She is an attorney and a certified Family Law Specialist, practicing in Arizona. She is a past president of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts and is a Fellow of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. She has served on every Arizona Supreme Court Committee that created, adopted and revised the Arizona Rules of Family Law Procedure since 2003. She has received many awards for service to community, the practice of law, and to children.
DESCRIPTION
In divorce and coparenting, not only do parents need to deal with their own emotions, they may be faced with a daily barrages of hostile calls, texts, social media blasts, and/or emails. How can you regain a sense of control and peace for your own sake and for the kids?
For more than a decade, the BIFF method of responding to hostile and misinforming emails, texts and conversations, has grown in use by thousands of people dealing with a person with a high conflict personality.
This third book in the BIFF Conflict Communication Series is especially devoted to parents dealing with issues in and after separation and divorce as they co-parent their children, complete with instructions in the four-step BIFF method and numerous examples for dealing with co-parent situations.