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How Did This Happen to Me?
You aren’t a bad person. You didn’t commit crimes in a previous life. And your karma isn’t out of whack. Then why did this happen? How did you get into a relationship with someone who is manipulative, controlling, willing to use the kids to try to hurt you and all is around mean?
High Conflict Christmas In Two Homes Survival Guide
Do you feel like your children are *missing out* by not spending time with both their parents on Christmas Day? Have your children become a pawn in your ongoing parental conflict and Christmas is just another example of that?
The 4 “Fugetaboutits” in High Conflict Mediation
Mediation with one or more parties with a high conflict personality requires a significantly different approach from the standard “interest-based” model that has led the field of mediation over the past 35 years.
Managing Your Life with a High-Conflict Co-Parent
How to get off the emotional roller coaster and understand triggers and resulting response patterns so you can reclaim your life. Megan Hunter and Andrea LaRochelle discuss The High-Conflict Co-Parenting Survival Guide
Mediating High Conflict Workplace Disputes
Some workplace disputes get resolved rather easily by those involved or by simple management interventions. Other disputes are more difficult and mediation is becoming an appealing method for resolving such disputes […] In these situations, more steps may need to be involved…
BIFF® Communications for Estranged Families
This time of year we think about and visit with our families. Hopefully happy times. But for many people, it is a sad time because of estranged family relationships. Is there anything that can be done to help reconcile these relationships during the holidays?
99 Things to Do When You Are Feeling Depressed
A major depressive episode can be exhausting and deeply discouraging for individuals who are already coping with a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder or self-injurious behaviors. Here are some ideas you may want to consider while you’re coping with depression.
Living in Your Own World
When people get a divorce, they are often seduced into the “world of lawyers,” who live in the world of the law. The law dictates…
Do Narcissists Make Good Leaders in Business?
The world of business and leadership would seem to be dominated by narcissists, because of their ability to draw attention to themselves and to get people to follow them.
The Beast
Living with Borderline Personality Disorder is painful. We are consumed daily with the most intense and unstable emotions, self-loathing and distorted thinking. Our thoughts and our feelings are completely invisible to the outside world, thus making it difficult for outsiders to understand that our behaviors are simply a manifestation of what is going on internally.
HCPs and Violence
Recent news of mass shootings has made everyone more anxious and fearful that it could, in fact, “happen here.” The search is on for causes and solutions to this increasing problem. I have been asked to explain…
Writing BIFF Responses to High Conflict People When You Don’t Feel Like It
Receiving an email, text or letter can put a dent in your day when it contains a zinger. It can get right under your skin and ruin your day and maybe even a few nights’ sleep as you perseverate about it and draft numerous responses in your head.